The black community has many traditions that are apart of the make-up of who we are as a people. Among the most important and often the least prioritized is the black woman. As men, my generation in particular, we do not have the fundamental understanding or appreciation that we should towards our black women. We insist upon what we call “realistic expectations” from our women, but the majority of the time we do not properly set up the situation correctly to have those expectations realized. As a result, we have conflict with one another which deteriorates one of our greatest strengths…the family.

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I was curious about the word pride so I looked it up. I discovered that pride could be viewed as a feeling of self-respect and personal worth, satisfaction with your achievements or a trait being spurred on by a dislike of falling below your standards. When I see what black men have become and compare us to what our predecessors were, I can’t help but ask, “What happened to our pride?”

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I need you to be honest with yourself for one minute. When you think of a young black man in America what you do think about? Or a better question would be, “When you visualize a black man, what do you see?” Before you answer, don’t say Barack Obama. I’m proud of him just like you are, but he does not represent the average black man. Don’t name any sports stars, rap stars or movie stars, in other words nobody famous. Now what do you see? Having trouble getting a visual…let me help you out...

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You may disagree with me, but as a community and a culture, I think African Americans can get caught up on big headline news. Headline news makes you REACT, it makes you feel some strong emotion. It makes you say, “SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE ABOUT THIS NOW!!!” So much so, that a chemical reaction occurs that can actually be quite debilitating. This limiting chemical reaction occurs in most critical times of communication and is called adrenaline.

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